Smart Dating Tips For Women - Develop Outstanding People Skills!

Attracting, getting, and maintaining long-lasting love requires both partners to practice sound human-relations skills. When the going gets rough, smart people remain patient, kind, compassionate and, most of all, flexible in their approach to one another. Remember the Golden Rule which reads: "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." In other words, treat others as you want to be treated. If you don't, poor people skills will make you an undesirable person to spend time with.

The following ideas are designed to help fine-tune your ability to get along well with other people and improve your human-relations skills for a better love life:

o START BY BEING FRIENDLY & CHEERFUL.

Remember that first impressions are formed during the initial few seconds of an interaction. That's why it's always a safe policy to start off by putting your best foot forward. A good way to accomplish this is to be friendly and cheerful. A warm smile also communicates this feeling in a natural way. People frequently make the mistake of trying too hard to impress someone in the beginning. However usually the other person just wants is to feel comfortable and have an enjoyable experience. If you do not make a good impression, you may not get a chance to make a second one.

o RELAX AND BE NATURAL.

Another helpful technique to master is having an opening greeting in mind to use. Keep it simple and natural such as "Hi, how are you doing?" Rather than dumping a clever line on another person, it's far better to be relaxed and communicate in a natural manner. This puts the other person at ease.

o REFRAIN FROM EXCESSIVE COMPLAINING AND CRITICIZING.

In my work as a tour director, I've had my fill of people who criticize and complain about almost anything. While they may have legitimate reasons for doing this, the end result is that these people enjoy their vacations less and tend to bring other travelers down. If these types of people could only rid themselves of the need to feel more important by making such comments, then they would open up their lives to more social opportunities and better-quality relationships with others. Unfortunately, habitual complainers are the last ones to find out how many love-chances passed them by because of their negative nature. By not being negative, you not only open yourself up to additional possibilities, you will actually allow yourself to enjoy them more, too.

o CONNECT ON THE SAME LEVEL.

Be aware that most communication between people is done on an unconscious level. A well-documented study by Dr. Albert Mehrabian at the University of California, Los Angeles, showed that nonverbal communication --- including facial, eye, and body movements --- account for 55% of all communication. According to this research, only 7% of communication comes from the actual words we use and 38% of our communication consists of simple voice inflections. In order to connect on the same level, a smart communicator will match another person's basic voice-traits (volume and speed) and non-vocal patterns (hand gestures, amount of eye contact, and basic facial expressions).

o DON'T TELL OTHER PEOPLE THAT THEY ARE WRONG.

We waste a lot of energy trying to be right. In the meantime, we inadvertently make other people feel wrong. What's funny is that we often have good intentions when telling someone they are wrong. As concerned friends, we don't want people we care about to go down the wrong path toward unhappiness, failure, or disappointment. But corrective remarks often result in defensiveness from the other person. So when the stakes are small, be sure to let some harmless comments or behavior go by unchallenged. This allows others to recognize that you approve and accept them as they are. And then be very selective about the things you do address.

o AVOID GOSSIP.

Many people have a natural urge to stick their noses into other people's business. For some, this is a kind of entertainment that focuses on the faults of others rather than their strengths. The danger with gossip is that it is filled with speculation, questions people's motives, and is usually designed to criticize or belittle others. Most gossip involves friends, co-workers, or neighbors, so the words of the one who gossips often get back to the accused. People start to wonder what is said about them when they aren't around. If you are viewed as a gossip, people will consider you untrustworthy. The safe strategy is to mind your own business. Also, simply by listening to gossip, you encourage it.

o GIVE WELL-RECEIVED COMPLIMENTS.

In my earlier career as a public speaking trainer, I had to have a variety of uniquely positive things to say about my students after their speeches. I would usually look for something that I either liked, admired, trusted, or respected about that person. Later, in the dating arena, I found that making an effort to find the less obvious and more personal compliment was a sign that I truly valued the woman at a deeper level. For example, instead of telling a beautiful woman that she was pretty, I would listen intently and say that I enjoyed her sense of humor or respected her opinion about something. That always seemed to score bigger points with my dates and it made me stand out among the other men the woman knew.

o WIN ARGUMENTS BY AVOIDING THE UNNECESSARY ONES!

A lot of wasted energy is spent trying to win arguments rather than letting the other person express his or her ideas freely. Sometimes you must remind yourself that many battles aren't worth fighting. It's better to save your ability to discuss differences for the issues that are really important in your relationships. If you feel you could be better at dealing with relationship conflicts, read I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What?: How to Break Through Any Relationship Stalemate Without Fighting, Folding or Fleeing by JacLynn Morris, M.Ed. and Paul L. Fair, Ph.D.

Improving your human-relation skills may require breaking some old patterns and habits. However, excelling in your people skills is an attractive quality that allows the chance for love to flourish. Your ability to get along with a wide variety of people under different sets of circumstances goes a long way toward making sure that your love relationship is an expanded, growing one --- not a limited dying one.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Dating sucks when you don't get along well with others and are a pain to be around for very long. But dating rocks when people enjoy your company and deeply value their association with you under all kinds of social circumstances.

Steve Nakamoto - "The Voice Of The Other Half"
iVillage.com's Ask Mr. Answer Man Relationship Expert
2-Time Writer's Digest Award-Winning Author
Author of Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs To Know About Catching A Man
Talk Like A Winner! 21 Simple Rules For Everyday Communication Success
Dating Rocks! The 21 Smartest Moves Women Make For Love

http://www.SteveNakamoto.com

Do Single Women Really Want Subservient Men to Date and Dominate? Find the Answer in Our Dating Q&A

Read a dating question from a single man who may need to change his view of women if he wants to enjoy his dating life. See if you agree in this dating Q & A:

Dating Question:
In the past year, I've had two relationships with women I met on-line. Both women tried to dominate and outperform me in every aspect of life. They each asked me to loan them large sums of money. I told them to get lost and they did.

I know that single women want a subservient relationship where a man shoves money down her throat, caters to her every whim, and then he's disposable like garbage. I'm sorry if I generalize here, but it is the truth.

I do not think women find men as necessary. Is there a woman in this town who wants a real man anymore?

Feeling neutralized in L.A.

Dating Answer:

So sorry you're feeling neutralized by dating two gold rush girls in a row. When a date asks you to be their banker, it's time to say, "Next", with your wallet intact. You were smart to move on.

Do you think it is wise to generalize about all women based on your experience with two women? Or is this is a sure-fire way to sabotage each future relationship?

You may discover the answer in a motto of our online community, which is inspired by the law of attraction:

"What you see will be."

Do you see how you could be choosing the same type of woman to date again and again? Or do you believe that each new date will treat you the same as a past relationship?

If you believe your past will become your future, you look for clues of bad things to come and see failure before you ever get started in a relationship. If you paint the same negative portrait on each woman you meet, you stifle their freedom to be unique. And you destroy your own seeds of joy.

There is an antidote. If you don't like the way you see women, you may see them with new eyes.

Will you allow yourself to see how each woman's behavior is different from a past relationship?

If like attracts like, will you lead with your best qualities so you attract a woman who values and shares these qualities?

Will you give a woman the chance to love you the way you desire and deserve to be loved?

If you change the way you see women, you will change your experience with women. If and when you give this a go, write back and let us know!

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How To Pick Up Women - Best Pick Up Lines That Work

Want to find out how to pick up women and beautiful girls for dates? Here are some of the best pick up lines that have worked for others. If you are creative, you can easily come up with your own. These will help you think of some ideas. Good pick up lines are absolutely essential for starting a conversation with someone you've never met before.

1. Ask for Help or a recommendation:

Seen a beautiful girl you'd like to get to know? Just walk up to her and say something like: "Hi, I just moved to this city/town and was wondering if you could recommend a good restaurant here." Then ask her to join you. e.g. "Would you also like to join me?"

2. Greet Her:

"Hi" is the best pick up line there is. It can be followed by a comment about some aspect of the situation where you are, e.g. "how do you like the team today?" (If you're at a basketball match)

3. Give your self an excuse to speak to her:

"Excuse me, but I think you just dropped something". Then show her anything from your pocket and ask if it belongs to her. Simple items such as a pencil etc.., will do. Use this to start a conversation and ask her about herself. This pick up line has been used successfully many times by different guys.

4. Ask for her opinion:

For example, in a shop: "What do you think of this shirt, should I buy it? I'm not very good at the whole fashion thing."

At a concert, "Hi" followed by "how do you like the band?" This is simple but very effective.

5. Be funny:

"See my friend over there by the tree? He wants to know if you think I'm cute."

"Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?"

6. Give her a nice compliment:

"Hi, don't I know you? Yes, you're the girl with the beautiful smile."

7. Say something outrageous:

"Running the marathon made me too distracted to manage my hedge fund today, but can I help you with your coat?" (Source: MSNBC.com)

8. Offer to go out of your way

"So what do I have to do to get your number? Is asking enough? Because if not, I'm prepared to buy you a muffin/CD/best selling novel of your choice, if that's what it takes." (source: About.com). Say a muffin if you're in a coffee shop, a CD if you're in a music store, etc.)

There are many different pick up lines which you can use to pick up women for a date or courtship. If you think creatively you'll easily be able to come up with your own unique pickup lines.

Click here for a list of the top 10 pick up lines with up to 92% success rate. You can also visit the singles dating guide online for relationship tips and advice.

Copyright c Melinda Richards.

Dating Tips for Guys Trying To Attract Beautiful Women

Dating can be a challenge for many guys, as there are thoughts and factors that may hinder you to pursue your plans. Sometimes you may not have the courage to go on for the fear of being rejected. But of course, there are things that can help you approach and date beautiful women. If you are looking for some dating tips for guys, read on for some that you may find useful.

- Be confident with yourself. If you don't believe yourself, you won't find yourself confident enough to face beautiful women. If you are just an average Joe, if you believe and love yourself, you can be confident around women and around other people. Of course, you also have to take note that there is a thin line between confidence and cockiness and crossing beyond that line may drive away women farther from you.

- Using the power of body language. Body language is also a very good thing to learn if you want to make the power of attraction work for you. Body language can be making eye contact, making physical contact that will not threaten the woman and in making a woman feel special. Body language can indeed make a good start in approaching women and in making connections even before you get to know her name or get her number. Of course, you can't just approach a woman and ask for her number. There are many subtle ways to help establish a connection and body language can be one.

- Using humor to captivate a woman's heart. Sense of humor can work like magic to captivate people's interests and many women's hearts, thus it pays to cultivate your sense of humor, or practice some. In fact, this is one of the top dating tips for guys. Although some men are just gifted with such great sense of humor that can capture a wide audience, you don't have to be a comedian however to pull off a good one-liner to make a woman laugh. In fact, you can learn it and with good practice, you can eventually master this skill and become someone that women love to be with all the time.

- Learn how to start and make good conversations. Good conversations are keys to making a woman fall for you. Of course, learning how to make good conversations with women is a skill that you have to master. Women love to be complimented and you also have to master how to compliment a beautiful women. Learn how to ask her questions that can make her feel special and you also take into consideration body language especially eye contact. Listening is also an important part of a good conversation and make sure you are not monopolizing the conversation of things that you like and your interests. Sometimes it pays to listen and be interested more on what your date wants to share. Good listening is also one of the good dating tips for guys to be able to create a good impression to the woman that they are interested in them.

Carolyn Anderson loves to share resources that can help you in dating and in improving your relationships. For an average Joe to attract beautiful women, check out this Dating Savant Playbook. Also learn how you can Secret Method to Attract Women to learn tips from a master pick up artist on how to date gorgeous women.

Dating Advice For Women - Dating Again After a Bad Hurt Or the Death of a Spouse

Getting over hurt after a relationship or after the death of a spouse or partner can really be difficult. These suggestions can help you:

Dealing With Hurt

Hurt is difficult to deal with. The best way to deal with it is to get back out there as soon as you can, consistent with making good sense. The fastest way to forget "him" is to start seeing some nice gentlemen, enjoying things again and finding another "him." Do not let an unrealistic focus on someone paralyze you. No one is worth that. Some women torture themselves for years over a past hurt or over not being able to have who they want. You know the line about dreams. Be careful. They might come true.

Be careful what you wish for so ardently. Have a real life instead. If you are coming from a hurtful situation, just gently tell the men you meet, as one lady did to me, that you have come off of a difficult relationship, and you need to take things slowly. If he is a good man, he will understand.

Death of A Partner

There is a different kind of hurt when someone loses their love to death. Sometimes it is sudden, which is hard to deal with emotionally, and sometimes financially. Other times it can be the result of a long illness, which can be very draining emotionally and physically. While the love who has died may be sorely missed, the very practical problem the survivor can face is loneliness. Some women cope with this by spending more time with their family and friends and taking up new interests. For some women that is enough. New relationships aren't for everyone.

I had a wonderful and cheerful aunt who was widowed for many years. She never remarried, although I'm sure she could have easily. She always seemed very content with her situation and enjoyed spending a great deal of time with her children and grandchildren. For other women though, they have a loneliness that they realize only having another love and companion can satisfy. There's a difference in being content and "contenting yourself". If what you really want is love, be open to possibilities and do something about it, and be as content with your current situation as you can be in the meantime, by actively trying to fill it with things that interest you.

Sometimes there may be a wave of "guilt" because of needing love again. There shouldn't be any. Your deceased spouse had all the time allotted to him. Hopefully, it was a good one you shared together. Keep those good memories in that special place in your heart no one can touch. (Any caring new love will be respectful enough to help you honor that.) But if your husband was truly in love with you, and sees you aching in loneliness, it is hard to imagine that a truly loving and unselfish husband wouldn't want you to be happy again. If you're thinking "You didn't know my _______. He'd never want me with anybody else. Ever." If that's the case, he'd be being pretty unfair to you and pretty selfish. He is gone and you are still here and need to have a life. And deserve to have one. Value the love you had. Remember the good times always. Then get on with your valuable time, and make love part of it again. You are worth it and you deserve it. Go for it.

Some women might say "I could never get married or have a relationship again. There will never be another love like John." That's true. There won't be. He was an original. We all are. But that doesn't mean that you can't find a different kind of love with another fine man, who has equally praiseworthy characteristics of his own, that you could build satisfying tomorrows with.

If you are widowed and lonely, I sincerely hope you will give love together with someone else a chance. If you meet the right person, he will make it easier for you to do. You may both have memories, good and not so good of the past, but together you can build a future of love and caring together. Do not feel as if you are abandoning your former time and its memories, you're just adjusting to an uncontrollable changing situation and building a new life for yourself.

And do not worry about what other people think. Sometimes children and friends are aggrieved when a widow decides to date again. They do not have the same perspective you have because of age, or because they haven't been through the experience you've been through. While they are well meaning most of the time, they are also not the ones who have to take walks alone, eat alone, spend evenings alone or go to bed without the warmth and comfort of their love next to them. Do what your heart tells you. You can be happy again. When you are, you will wonder why you didn't act sooner. Love and romance are there for the taking. Isn't now the time?

Larry Danks is the author of Finding The Right Man For You: Dating Advice For Women. The Table of Contents and further information is available on: [http://www.FindingTheRightManForYou.com] The book is available through Amazon.com and all leading booksellers.

Smart Dating Tips For Women - Love Yourself First & Foremost!

Love always begins with you! You must love yourself first in order to love others. Love is a two-way street of giving and receiving. You can't give away the gift of love unless you possess it within yourself in the first place. And you can not receive and accept love if you don't feel deep inside that you deserve it.

The following ideas are designed to help boost your self-esteem and thereby strengthen your source of power to give and receive love:

o REDISCOVER YOUR OVERLOOKED STRENGTHS.

There is a popular saying that goes, "It ain't bragging if it's true." In your private moments, be sure to take some time out to remember some of your often-overlooked positive qualities. Why wait around for someone else to give you an uplifting and empowering personal compliment, when nobody knows you better than you do? When your personal power starts to run low, be the first one to do a little bragging in the name of love.

o STOP LIVING TO PLEASE OTHERS.

Most of us were raised to try to please other people, whether it was our parents, teachers, coaches, friends, or other family members. But as adults, there is a limit to how much energy we can spend on pleasing others before it is at the expense of our own desires. You can show how much you truly love yourself by choosing to prioritize your own needs over those of others. After an initial adjustment, this strategy will end up freeing up more positive energy in your life, which other people will find naturally attractive.

o PRACTICE COMPASSION FOR YOURSELF & OTHERS.

When we put ourselves in other people's shoes and feel empathy for their challenges, we are practicing compassion. This emotion helps us to open up our hearts and value other people. Even a small act, like looking people in the eye and saying "hello," sends a clear message to that other person that they matter. A simple, yet profound principle to remember is that you can't elevate another person's self-esteem without also elevating your own.

o LEARN TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF.

We would all agree that having a great sense of humor is attractive to others. And when we are able to direct this humor toward ourselves, it offers multiple benefits. First, it acts like a safety valve and takes off some of the pressure of everyday living. Secondly, it prevents us from taking ourselves too seriously. Also, it can prevent us from being too hard on ourselves when we don't measure up to our own high expectations. Lightening things up has the attractive side-benefit of putting others at ease, too! They don't have to worry that we'll be too hard on them also.

o LIST YOUR PERSONAL BREAKTHROUGHS.

We all have proud moments when we were able to overcome a particular challenge successfully. Taking an inventory of these breakthrough moments and appreciating our progress can raise our self-esteem. For example, I experienced a personal breakthrough when I appeared on the NBC television talk- show The Other Half (mentioned previously in this book). For a guy whose biggest fear was public speaking, this was a feat that I'm still very proud of today. What accomplishments are you most proud of? Make sure that you create a list of your breakthroughs and put it somewhere where you can look at it regularly. Remind yourself of how wonderful and courageous you truly are.

o STOP THE CRITIC INSIDE YOU.

There is an internal voice within each of us that likes to remind us of our fears and limitations. When faced with a major challenge, this voice will often proclaim, "No you can't!" So it is our responsibility and duty to quiet that self-sabotaging voice. Listen instead to the powerful inspiration of your own inner and outer voice with repeated positive statements like "Yes, I can!" and "If it's to be, it's up to me." When possible, do this in front of a mirror. By reinforcing the message that you send yourself with strong tonality, sincere emotion, and congruent facial expressions, you'll be replacing your inner critic with a private cheerleader. This is a great way to raise and maintain a high self-esteem.

o GET COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR OWN BODY.

It's also important to accept and appreciate yourself on a physical level. While we can't all have "the perfect body," it's a good practice to remove any awkwardness or shyness that we may have with ourselves. A constructive thing to do is to stop thinking about how flawed your body looks and to start paying attention to how healthy your body is becoming. The healthiness of your body is something that you can have immediate control over through diet, discipline, exercise, and relaxation. And the bottom line is that a healthy body is a sexy body, which is all you really need to convey to men and, more importantly, to yourself.

o ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS GRACIOUSLY.

Many people have difficulty accepting compliments. They will often respond by lowering their heads or saying something to minimize the compliment. The internal effect is that you rob yourself of the self-esteem boost that you could be receiving from the other person. Instead of rejecting the next compliment, be ready to accept it graciously by holding your head high and saying, "Thank you." Do this and you will also allow the sender of the compliment to enjoy the gift of giving.

o TREAT YOURSELF TO WELL-DESERVED REWARDS.

It is a healthy practice to reward yourself periodically with special treats. That way, you'll be sending a clear message to yourself that you deserve to be treated well. If you don't feel worthy of accepting rewards in life, how can you expect another person to feel that you're worthy of their attention and love? Small indulgences like a trip to the spa for a facial and massage may do more than just make your body feel better. Such special treatment revitalizes the essential spirit of self-esteem, and it will power your love life.

By following these simple guidelines, a smart woman can create and maintain a healthy self-esteem and keep herself energized throughout her journey to love.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Dating sucks when you're scaring men away inadvertently with your low self-esteem and self-destructive behavior. But dating rocks when you love yourself first and send out a clear signal to prospective men that you're a special woman who rightly deserves to be recognized, appreciated, and loved.

Steve Nakamoto - "The Voice Of The Other Half"
iVillage.com's Ask Mr. Answer Man Relationship Expert
2-Time Writer's Digest Award-Winning Author
Author of Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs To Know About Catching A Man
Talk Like A Winner! 21 Simple Rules For Everyday Communication Success
Dating Rocks! The 21 Smartest Moves Women Make For Love

http://www.SteveNakamoto.com

5 Simple Techniques To Skyrocket Your Online Dating Success With Women

Online dating is becoming the preferred method of dating for a lot of men and women. It was a held generalization a few years ago that you either had to be socially awkward or a psychopath to have a real profile on a matchmaking site. That was a few years ago. Due to the influx of social networking sites, it appears that the overflow of serious date seekers have been introduced to the concept of meeting decent people online, and have started to use sites like Match.com, Nerve.com, and other specialty sites (not eHarmony).

This article is specifically for men, there are beautiful women to be found online, you just have to seek the women out efficiently and give yourself the best chances for responses to your emails and requests.

I've had incredible success with online dating, and in this article outlined some of the surefire tactics I've used to dramatically increase women's response rate and getting dates.

Photo Rotation For Higher Responses

I can't take credit for this tactic, but will mention it first because of its sheer simplicity in boosting your success. I learn about this technique in an interview I had with Tim Ferriss, author of The 4-Hour Workweek. I asked Tim what yielded the highest profile views with his online dating efforts, and I later confirmed this technique for myself. The trick is to rotate your profile photo every week. This does a number of things. It places your profile near the top of search results because of it being new. Matchmaking sites love to have active users, and this is one of the ways they use to gauge it. Another valuable reason is that it keeps women who weren't interested in you before because of a particular "look" you may have had in another photo that didn't stand out to them in her search results before. Oh, and before I forget, never post a photo with your shirt off. Never.

Never Wink

You may have seen on some of these online dating sites a feature called "Wink" or "Poke". Hmm... poke? Don't use these features. They are completely and utterly counterproductive to you. They are for women to express a small interest in you, not for you to be a wuss to express interest in a woman that you think is a good match.

Use Direct Subject Lines To Get Your Point Across

In that same interview with Tim, he said he was getting a 20% or so response rate. Then one of his Virtual Assistants tried a very different approach, a subject line with a direct attitude. He used "Looking For A Date" as the subject line with amazing results. Apparently, his return email rate got a 50% jump to 70% of every email he sent out with that subject line. I don't recommend using that particular line, but come up with your own direct lines. Remember, when a woman is getting 50+ emails a day from every time of man, it's a good idea to stand out.

Don't Be Too Dominant, But Don't Be A Pushover

A lot of guys send out emails saying, "You're so cute" or "I had to contact you, I think we have a lot in common." Yawn. Take it from a purely statistical standpoint. When you're receiving those emails one after the other, they're getting old. Look at her profile, does something jump out? If so, mention it in the first few lines of the email, but not in a pushover way. If she has an interest in Costa Rica, be flirty about your take on it. "You've been to Costa Rica? I'll take it that you dodged Miguel, that local conman at the airport in San Jose, and got to surf in " Basically, you want to point out something about her in a non-sucking up way. But you don't want to be an asshole by saying "You've been to Costa Rica? Hmm... Maybe we can go together sometime, if you're lucky!" Ok, that screams creepy, and delete is the destination for anything that in overtly says it. What I'm saying is, you want to be confident, but not seem arrogant, and you want to come across with security. It's OK to send longer emails, but don't jump into deep identity conversations at first, remember you've got some time if you make that good impression, so take it easy and keep it light.

Limit Your Search To Increase Your Results

Guys want it all. They want every woman that they find attractive. This mindset is the approach most men are wired with, which can be a flaw when the algorithms on matchmaking websites kick in. Basically, say you live in 90028, Hollywood. When you search with a 10 mile radius, because of the population you will get drastically different results than a 5 mile radius search using the exact same 90028 zip code. What's going on? Wouldn't the search results just return as many possible results as it can? No, because that's not the way they're setup. Here's the flaw in their system, and how I used to search for women in my local area. Most online dating sites have a result limit, which dictates that if 100 pages of results are returned for a 10-mile radius search from 90028 then only 50 pages will show as results. This excludes a bunch of women in your 90028 zip code because of preference for more active users in that 10-mile radius.

Another technique that you should employ if you really want to search in the 10-mile radius (or whatever distance you prefer) is to choose preferences. Say you love brunettes; search a larger radius around your zip-code (depending on the population in your local area) with that specification and you'll get more results that you're interested in.

By using these tactics, you'll dramatically increase your online dating success, and won't be wasting so much money on the monthly fees which yield little or no women to date.

Donovan has many other techniques for meeting women online which can be found at his dating blog Seduction Chronicles

Meet More Women Online With These 3 Opening Lines

How many of you act like the local supermarket and mass mail every Tuesday hoping someone comes into your life with your 50% off love coupon?

The number one mistake most men make is they mass mail and they fail to realize that when they do this the women delete there emails right away without reading.

So what do you do when you are looking to meet women online?

The correct online opener is no different from the perfect bar, party or supermarket opener.

Guys, women know when something you send is a "cut and paste." It shows that you did not read their profile, and the first thing they will think about you is that you're lazy and not very clever.

You can't just send out 100 generic emails to women and expect to get a response back. Most men who use the shotgun approach tend to never, ever receive responses to them.

So what should a guy do to succeed in the competitive world of online dating?

1) Keep in mind that the women have all the power. What works offline is going to work online.

You need to be different and clever, just like you do when you approach a woman in a bar or a supermarket. So the first thing you need to do is make your profile fun.

Take these examples:

Fine: "I am a doctor and I love it"

Better: "I love what I do... I help people cure all common ailments. Though my day may be full of people complaining, at the end of the day I know that all of them go home healthier than when they walked in."

It really is all about having fun. Here is another example to make your profile rock.

Fine: "I love to travel."

Better: "I love the Italian coast, and when I was in Positano I had the best lemon cello in the world. When we speak, ask me about the view."

Why are the "better" ones better? Because they make them picture what that was like and it will peak their interest. It will also be something that they can ask you about when they

are responding to your profile. You need to create an emotional response, so they feel compelled to write to you or to write you back.

2) Pick a select number of women you want to get to know each week. So now that you have

spruced up your profile how do you get their attention and distinguish yourself from all the other guys online? This is the easy part... but it will take some work. Instead of burning through 100 profiles and sending out a shotgun mass email that does not work, you need to pick 10 to 15 women at the beginning of the week that you want to get to know.

The reason you do this is because each week, their emotions and dating moods change. Plus, if you do it right, you will get a good response rate and have a few dates that week. Now comes the work. You need to read through their profiles and find the fun tidbits. For example, if the both of you have a dog you can send this email:

Subject Line: "If not for us..."

Email: "... our dogs will never be able to meet:)

My dog is really visual and when she saw a picture of yours, her stubby lab tail could not stop doing the thump thump!! We need to hook them up...plus I have to get her off Dogdate.com... She is becoming addicted!

Lets talk about this...

There are few reasons why this will work, besides the obvious ones that it is original and funny.

What you are doing is making fun of yourself here... men are visual and you are telling her that your dog is visual, which will get a laugh from her immediately. You want to make her laugh. She is getting all these horrible emails from all the "cut and paste" men, then yours comes in with some originality and creativity. It shows that you tried to get to know who she is by reading her profile.

Now lets say that you or she does not have a dog. This is also easy, you just need to read her profile and pick out a fun tidbit.

If, for example, she says that she is spontaneous and adventurous, what I like to do is challenge her on that. Women like their minds to be challenged. So you might write:

Subject Line: "So you say..."

Email: "... that you are adventurous and spontaneous. What was the last adventurous thing you did? And if you are really spontaneous,why don't you send me your number so we can talk.

Five minutes on the phone and we'll know if we have chemistry. Let's talk today.

I dare you."

This is also a one of my favorite opening emails. Yeah, I know some of you will look at this and think I'm crazy. I have been reading comments online and have enjoyed the banter.

But I will tell you that women like a man who is bold and who challenges her mind. You are also getting to the point and creating intrigue. She will wonder what you are all about.

Now why do I use the "..." on the subject line? I use it so they feel compelled and intrigued to open it. It is all about what may come after the "..." that makes them curious. You need to realize that most women get tons of emails from guys so you need to get that email opened.

3) Stay on a site. This is by far the best advice. Stop jumping from site to site every two weeks and think that you are going to get different results. You need to realize that women will check you out and read your profile, and it may take a few emails to get them to respond. The first time you contacted them they may have been intrigued, but at that time they may have been dating someone else, were too busy with other things, or you simply caught them on a bad day. I always tell my clients that it is okay to lob in another email a few weeks later. Now, don't send the same one... find something new about which to connect with her.

It is all about being persistent. I have found in all my years of advising people on the Internet, that the ones who stay on a site and are persistent will be the ones that get all the great dates. You need to be patient. Some weeks you will have a lot of responses, while other weeks you may not get much of anything. But if you try some of the pointers above, you will increase your odds every day.

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Best Pick-Up Lines: Pick-Up Lines That Women Can't Say No To

Do you get tired of guys using lousy pick-up lines when asking you for a date? Do you feel that most of these guys are not really serious when asking you out? Do you ever wonder when you'll be able to meet a guy who will ask you out using some of the best pick-up lines that he can think of?

When it comes to dating, girls like guys who can be creative when asking a girl out for a date. For guys who want to get noticed and receive favorable response from a girl, coming up with the best pick-up lines no matter if it's crazily funny or not is important. Girls like guys who take time and put a lot of effort thinking of ways on how to get a girl's attention. There may be a lot of pick-up lines out there that guys can use to ask a girl out however girls also dig guys who are creative in coming up with the best pick-up lines he could think of. For guys who want to have an idea on what types of pick-up lines would make a girl say yes to the invitation, then the following can be a big help.

1. If you don't mind, I'd like to take you out on a date coz you're just simply irresistible: Girls will love this. This is straightforward and direct but at the same time flattering that is why this can be considered as one of the best pick-up lines that guys can use. Hearing this line will surely put a smile on a girl's face and may earn guys the response they are hoping for.

2. There are a lot of things I find attractive in you and if you go out on a date with me, I'll tell you about them: With this line, a girl will be curious to hear more about what the guy thinks about her and this curiosity will be the reason for her positive response. This type of line makes girls curious and can then be considered one of the best pick-up lines that guys can use to get a girl to say yes to his date invitation.

3. Would you like to take a chance on me? I can be the best date that you've always wanted: Isn't this line cute and sweet? Girls will surely fall for this one. It has the right sweetness to it coupled with the guy's determination to make a girl's dream date possible. This line holds no promises however there is sincerity on the part of the guy to give the girl that date she deserves thus making it one of the best pick-up lines for guys to use.

4. I never believe I'll get the chance to ask you out on a date, so here I am now, would you like to go on a date with me? The best pick-up lines can be as simple as this one. This line may not have the flattering words that girls want to hear but this can still make a girl say yes. This line can reflect a guy's sincerity and hope and girls will notice them and will not be able to say no.

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Online Dating Rules For Women

The internet has changed the face of dating, and it has expanded the pool of potential mates greatly for women on the prowl. It really is a wonderful tool to utilize when searching for the perfect partner, but there are some online dating rules for women to keep in mind when trying to find love this way.

First of all, it can become easy to get caught up in the romance of it all when you know that the men you are meeting are looking for the same things you are.

Dating in real life doesn't have nearly the same certainties, and when you meet a man at the grocery store it may take you multiple dates to learn as much about him as you could from his online profile if that had been how you met him. In online dating you know right up front what a man's interests are, how he feels about certain subjects, and what he is looking for from a partner. As such, it can become very easy to fall in love with who he is on paper and ignore the dissenting aspects of his personality in real life. Try to keep in mind that the internet allows people to create the most favorable versions of themselves possible, but that we all have our skeletons as well and no one is perfect. Of course, one of the benefits is that you will also know some of the major facets of his life right of front, such as whether he has been married before or has children under his care now.

When it comes time for an actual date, most of the typical dating rules apply; only now with the added edge of feeling like you already know this person you've never actually met. The familiarity you may find by getting to know each other online could wipe away some of the caution you would typically have in dating, but try to keep in mind that you still don't really know this person. For the first date it is advisable that you offer to meet him somewhere, rather than allowing him to know your home address. In this way, if the date doesn't go as planned or he isn't the Prince Charming he originally seemed, you can rest assured that at least he doesn't have too much access to your personal life. Further, don't be afraid to do a little internet stalking before and after that first date. Court documents are available online in almost every state, and you really can tell a lot about a man from him Facebook profile. His dating profile may be where he put his best foot forward, but if he has giant red flags to hide you can likely find those just as easily.

If that first date goes better than planned, and everything comes clean in your online snooping, you may have a winner on your hands. In the world of online dating, the second date rules don't differentiate much from what they would be if you had met this man in the frozen foods section. At this point it really becomes about getting to know his "in real life" personality, and deciding if all his little quirks are endearing or annoying. Transitioning into exclusivity may be less awkward than it typically would be, since you both know that the reason you met in the first place was because you were looking for something serious. This means that if you are really interested in him after a few dates it would not be totally out of line for you to suggest that the two of you make your dating profiles inactive for the time being and focus on each other. If nothing else, this will be the easiest segue into the "what does our future hold" conversation you've ever had!

Whatever happens, remember to have fun. The internet, if nothing else, can expand your dating horizons to levels you would never have imagined before. Waiting around by the produce for Mr Right is a nice concept, but finding him online is a much more tangible reality.

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Online Dating Mistakes Men Make That Put Women Off

In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you're going about things the right way.

Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.

Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.

No picture

Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don't worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.

Naked pictures

It's hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don't do it.

Accusing tone

People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off "undesirables". Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don't want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like "no time wasters" are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think "I feel like wasting someone's time today". The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like "no fat chicks", "no old hags" etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.

List of demands

Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it's good to include information about your ideal woman, don't let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it's good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don't come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like "I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs" sounds much better than "I want to meet fit women".

Going on about ex

Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It's a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don't fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won't be doing yourself any favours.

Boasting

There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn't believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.

Asking for sex

Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it's best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it's best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.

Empty profiles

Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It's worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.

Jealousy and possessiveness

When starting to communicate with women online, don't act like you're married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.

Acting Desperate

It's somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it's best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don't expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.

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Searching For Women With Online Dating Sites

Online dating sites are very popular they help men to find women of their dreams. These dating sites are spread worldwide and allow you to find a woman of your choice. If you want to marry or date a Russian woman then you should visit online Russian dating sites. There are numerous Russian dating and marriage sites. These sites give you many types of opportunity. You can find your match from thousands of profiles posted on these sites or you can specify you choice and the site finds it for you.

It is necessary that you find a safe online dating service to fulfill your dreams. Russian online dating site finds various methods to make men and women of similar interests meet one another. They can start with chatting to make connection with one another. Then if they find themselves compatible the online agency can setup a meeting too.

There are many aspects that draw a man towards a Russian woman. Men find Russian women very beautiful and smart. They love to date Russian singles for various reason. First they are physically as well as internally beautiful. Then they are intelligent and hard working. The most obvious reason is that they are perfect homemakers and become good mother for their children.

These online dating agencies are just a small medium to make you meet woman of your dream.

However, in present scenario they have become one of the strongest medium too. These online dating agencies have thousands of Russian women's profile and pictures in their data base. They keep them updated by adding new ones too.

Russian women are very loyal and feminine this impresses the man as well as his family. A Russian man coming from good family always prefers to marry a Russian woman as they are respected well in Russian society. This also makes them comfortable in line with their family where the mother is mostly concerned with getting a good Russian match for her son.

It is not only local men who look for good match for themselves, Russian men living in other countries are the most eligible choice by Russian women. Russian women never hesitate to go to a different country to get married. This is the reason why Russian women post their profile in safe and popular online dating services.

Apart from Russian men it is the men from western countries who are very much interested in marrying Russian girls as they are very beautiful and devoted. Western man knows that a Russian woman can make a perfect bride.

There are various sites on internet who charge minimum amount of money as fee to help you to find women of your dream. Once you pay the fee they will offer access to thousands of profile in their data base. These profiles mainly contain pictures and background knowledge of the various Russian singles interested in marriage. These Russian personals also mention where or not they are willing to travel for purpose of marriage.

These sites will let you know the women beforehand so that when you talk or meet her you know what her plus and minus are.

Many of these companies allow you to come to Russia and fix a date for you there. There are few dating who will even bear the expense of those trips. Their only purpose is to make suitable persons meet one another and give them a chance to fall in love.

Men are interested in Russian women because of various reasons and great things they hear about them. However, the main reason is they get to hear that Russian women are the most family oriented females. Their only goal is to keep their husbands and children happy. This is an in born quality in them as they are taught to be like this from childhood. You will see this point is always highlighted in Russian women's profile on online dating websites.

Many men apply to Russian online dating services in order to find Russian women for dating and relationships.

Things to Say to Women to Make Them Fall Hopelessly in Love With You

If you have been dating a girl for long or if you are new at the game of romance and if you are looking for few lines that would make any girl fall hopelessly in love with you, then here is where you stop to find those few lines. Read them and memorize well because it just won't look nice if you keep peeking into a piece of paper to remind you of statements that declare your never ending love!

"You are more beautiful than the thousand roses that I was thinking of getting for you". Now this makes it easy for you if you forgot to pick up the flowers for her and at the same time ensuring that she falls in love with you.
For a woman that you are meeting for the very first time - "Am I dead? Because I have never seen an angel like you walk this earth before"
"If there was one gift that I could ask of that good lord, then I would ask him to make you mine in this life and all others to come"
"wow, you are that star that fell out of sky yesterday, aren't you"
"I'm sure that any man would be lucky to have you and I will kill any man who has you just to make you mine for life"

Try these lines and see how even you can make any woman fall hopelessly in love with you. I know these sound a bit corny, but they work!

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Lesbian Dating - Tips for All Single Lesbian Women

As a lesbian woman who has been in the dating scene off and on for several years, I know the lesbian dating scene is unlike any other dating scene out there. Women. We are emotional, picky, sometimes clingy, and always looking for someone to love who loves us as much as we love them. And when you have 2 women in the same relationship, sometimes things can get a little, shall we say, messy.

I have been fortunate to find my life partner, but trust me when I tell you, it was NOT an easy task. It took years of dating, falling in love with the WRONG women, getting set up on blind dates, and trying to heed my own advice when it came to love and relationships. I was one of the lucky ones. For all of you single women who are out there still searching for the "one", I feel your pain.

Many people are surprised when I tell them how hard it is to find a good woman in today's world. Lesbian women deal with many of the same frustrations as our "breeder" friends when it comes to relationships and finding a good partner. My biggest frustration was finding a woman who didn't feel the need to fit into some cliche version of a butch or femme woman. Many of the butch women I dated wanted to rule the roost and have control over the relationship... Ummm.. that's not for me. I am and always will be a strong, independent woman who doesn't need to have her choices made by anyone else, be it male or female. For any of you who actually dig that kind of thing, more power to you, but I'm a believer in being an individual.. and INDEPENDENT individual.

Then we have the other end of the spectrum.. The femme females who feel as though they are entitled to be taken care of by their significant other. Now, don't get me wrong, I'll pamper a woman all day, and all night, however, I don't want anyone relying on me for everything in their life. I don't want a woman who doesn't want to work, nor do I want a woman who doesn't want me to work. In either of those situations, one of the people in the relationship will always be reliant on the other. And honestly, can you really have a good relationship when that is the case?

I believe in equality in a relationship. Equal sharing of chores, bills, and all the nonsense that goes on behind the scenes. I believe couples should make major decisions as a team so that each party involved is somewhat satisfied with the outcome. I believe in compromise. You will find that most of the time, you and your partner, or potential partner, don't always agree on things.. That's not a bad thing! You don't have to be twins, for gosh sakes! And, don't expect that there will never be arguments in the relationship. Arguing can be healthy if done properly. It's almost an art. But, you have to have the ability to express your opinion and still keep an open mind to actually hear what your partner has to say.

Ladies, being a lesbian is hard enough as it is. Our pool of potential partners isn't nearly as large as our hetro counterparts'. But, if you keep an open mind and keep your options open, you'll be more successful in the end.

We all have our lists of things we are looking for in a potential partner. We are all attracted to different things both in someone's personality, and in someones appearance. The trick is finding the right combination of both. And, that my friends, takes time.

I used to love online dating because it allowed me to meet a vast array of people without the awkwardness of having to actually go on a date with all of them. I met a lot of my past girlfriends on online dating sites. The ease and convenience of online dating are the reasons more and more singles are turning to the internet to find a potential mate.

You'll have to cast your line in a lot of ponds to find that special someone, but you'll only be successful if you actually try. Mix it up! Don't limit yourself to just one avenue of dating. Utilize online dating with the more conventional methods, like meeting through friends, at clubs and through other organizations you might be involved in. Dating isn't easy, but if you don't pressure yourself into falling in love with the first woman you go out with, you just might come away with some good friends, and find that special someone when it's all said and done.

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Single Black Women in America Dating Online

Many Black women in America are divorced or single or living alone. They have not found the right one in their last relationship. Some of them are still haunting from their past relationships, so they don't want to look for a new one. I tell you what, you should move on with your life. You must move on to find the true love. Do not let your last relationship keeps you lonely. You must live and must move forward. You must take action visiting online dating services to seek a dream mate. It is easy and simple to look for a date online these days. You should search for the best dating websites to register for a profile and start dating today.

Single women dating Black men are everywhere in the United States, including Texas, Georgia, DC, Houston, Atlanta, and more. They are nice people who respect others. Black women usually let their men lead the family. They are friendly and loyal to the true love. The only problem is that don't know where to go find the right man. So in this article we refer to the free Black dating sites for single women looking for men. Online dating service is the best place to find real singles to date. Why is that? You have a better chance to choose the best from thousands of personals on-line. The more you choose, the better to find the right one. You must select a number of local Black singles then choose the best one for you.

Online dating service is a best place to find lifetime partner. You will not find true love in nightclubs. You must visit free Black dating sites to find your soul mate. This is the best place you can find the perfect match. Without seeking the second half, how can you live the rest of your life with this person? You should find a match between you and that special one before you engage in any relationship. Long-term relationship is based on love and care. If you really love one person, then you care for that person. When you meet one person in the night clubs, you can not find a match only on the basis of what they say. People usually say good about themselves. Who wants to say bad about them?

Single Black Women in America are honest and faithful, as well as loyal to their families, relatives and friends. We have seen them act and behave with respect to everyone. The statistics showed that a high percentage of black women in America have never been married. Why is that? The main problem is that the place to find your soulmate is not correct. They have not found the right man in their life. What I wanted is you should go to the right place to find a date. If you go to the bars to look for a long term relationship, then is is too hard. A lifetime companion can be found at free black dating sites. You take action now by joining these services to find the true love who can share with your life.

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Single Black Men Dating Black Women From Online Dating Services

In the old days, single black men go to the bars or nightclubs to find black women. Then, they can not find a good date from these places. They wasted their time and money. Do you know why? Because most single black women do not like going to bars to meet their dates. It is a smart thing not to waste money from these expensive places. This is the best characteristics of single black girls. Most black women like to go to the church on Sundays. They work hard and very independent. Black girls like to take care of themselves and raise their children. So, where do black women seek their dates?

Dating black guys, most single black girls go to online black dating websites. This is a best place for a single black woman to find a single black man. Dating black singles services are popular these days and most black women find their dates online. Why wasting money seeking dates at the bars or nightclubs? There are many free black dating services and paid black sites out there. Black singles only need to turn on their computers and find their on line dates easily and conveniently. Single black women seeking single black males from these dating online sites. Some black dating sites are very effective. A single black man can find his date based on any criteria he selects from the search. For example, black singles can search for black Christian singles who live in their local area.

Online black singles need to join these services before contacting other black women. The steps to register is easy as 1, 2, and 3. If you can read English, then you can register a good personal ad. You can contact to many single black women. It is up to you. Not only you can contact to single black girls but you can contact other single white women, Asian women, or others. Sending a message to a member is not guaranteed you will get a reply. Therefore, you should try to send messages to as many singles as you can to increase a chance to get more replies. Most online singles do the same thing. They do not chat with one person but multiple people. 

Single black women usually find their dates online. They rarely to go to other places to seek their dates. Nowadays, black dating websites are booming. Some black dating sites create many relationships and marriages for black singles. If you are a starter or you are new to on line black dating services, I'd recommend you to join free dating online services. It does not cost you a fee to register your personal ad and to contact other online singles. After you get their personal information such as phone number, then you can call them to get knowing them more. If you feel interested in that person, then you can ask for a face to face meeting.

Black singles are waiting for you at these Black singles dating sites. So, are you ready to meet that special Black singles? do not wait. Take action now. Join these free Black dating services and meet that special soul mate of your dream.

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Older Dating - Tips For Dating Older Women

Age has simply ceased to matter in this world anymore. Dating has become open to all ages of people with attitudes getting a major face lift in the recent past. There are many people in this world who are exploring older dating because they believe that they are missing out on so much of fun.

A prime example of older dating is Demi Moore who dated Ashton Kutcher, who is fifteen years younger to her before getting married to him. There is no shame in dating an older woman as long as you connect. Older dating provides people with a lot of options in having fun which is simply not present in dating people of your own age. Many women are discovering this as an option to spending time in misery after a failed marriage or a widowed death.

Older dating may seem a piece of cake for you if you are trying out for older women. But this rarely happens to be the case. There are many older women who may not develop a liking for your behavior or vice versa if you do not follow the right approach. For instance, many younger men have an ego which prevents them from submitting to an older woman. But when you are looking to date an older woman, you have to cope up with it. The rules change since it is not a pretty young thing that you are planning to woo.

The first thing, therefore, is to keep ego under check. Since the woman is older, chances are that she might be more successful than you. Now, many younger men cannot handle being less successful than women. This is where you draw the line. You need to accept the fact that she is more mature and has had a lot more life experience. Older dating changes the rules of the game and you need to be up to date if you want to succeed.

Another aspect of older dating is to have your own space. Do not try and be a pile-on. Though you may want to spend every moment with her, give her space and have your own. Many older women prefer a younger guy who would want to be successful and working towards this with unaffected determination is going to make her like you even more. Also, it gives her the chance to miss you when you are not there. These are some of the tips which can really make a change to your love-life.

It's important to keep in mind that these are just tips and not law. You should enter every romantic relationship with an open mind and an open heart. Every relationship is unique because every person is unique and the only thing that can safely guide you through it is to follow your heart in humility and surrender. Older dating can turn into a long lasting and mature relationship for years to come so don't write it off or think you're too young or too old to find love in older dating.

Allen Tane is an experienced writer on the professional singles market and older dating industry. He has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of Allen's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, older dating relationships, and matchmaking. Allen's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their daily activities.

5 Must-Know Tips For Boomer Women Dating Online

Dating sites report that their fastest growing segment are people over 50. My clients, women ranging from 35 - 65, are having great success with it. Face it: online dating is the new hot spot for people who wouldn't dream of meeting someone in a bar.

You know I'm a huge proponent of online dating. I met my husband on Match.com when I was 47. He was 57. That man is the best part of my life. I love the idea of finding companionship and love using online dating.

Boomer woman at computer I want you all online. But before you put yourself out there, here is advice and tips from a gal who was online for years herself; and now helps other women get out there, have some fun, and find love.

1. Be the Boss

No, I don't mean be bossy. I mean be in control of your experience. Online dating opens you up to thousands more possibilities, and it's a completely new way of meeting people. Make some decisions and set some personal guidelines about how you want to integrate it into your life. How many hours will you spend each day? (Warning: this can get addictive!) What things can you do to ensure your physical and emotional well being as you talk to and meet people? What can you learn or change to be a successful dater? Intuition and special situations will create forks in the road. And as time goes on, you'll likely tweak some of these decisions. Considering some things up front, however, gives you a tentative roadmap and, more importantly, an expanded awareness. I want you to have fun, be open to new things, and enjoy the experience; just do it consciously and like the grownup woman that you are.

2. Stand out

Plain and simple: you have competition girlfriend. As we age, the ratio of women to men grows further apart. Some statistics say it's as much as 11 women to each man after 55. Yikes! So when you get online, I want you to stand up and stand out. Make sure your pictures are great. Get them done professionally. (Come on...$150 is too much to spend to attract a fabulous man??) Your profile needs to be unique and speak to men. (Tip: If your best girlfriend loves it; it probably sucks.) Every communication needs to scream how special you are, show your personality, and tell him you're interested. ("Hi" on the subject line means you wait in line or get deleted.)

3. Be honest

You are online, but your goal is to actually meet men, yes? One of the top complaints of men is that we post pictures that are...let's say...out of date. Just don't do it. Post lovely, yet current, pictures. It's disingenuous and a waste of time to do otherwise. Also, be clear about what you're looking for. I find that at 50, 60, and beyond there is a wide spectrum of what type of partner men and women are looking for. Whether you want a dinner partner or a husband; put it out there. There's no need to scream it, but weave it into your profile. If you want a life partner, you don't attract that man who is out there "just having fun." (Trust me, with Viagra and a computer...a man can have a lot of fun!)

4. Consider a makeover

When is the last time you updated your look? Have you changed the way you apply your makeup or wear your hair? Have you bought any new styled clothes? Doing this is as much about looking good for a man, as it is about feeling good for yourself. A confident woman who takes care of herself and looks healthy is a man magnet. Go to your local department store and have a free makeup session. (All the lines do this, did you know?) Splurge for a fancy hair style. Check out catalogs like Coldwater Creek, J Jill, or Chicos. You don't have to necessarily buy - but check out what's hot (and what's not).

5. Check your baggage

Yes, I do mean don't drag your nasty divorce, money troubles, or last case of gout into the conversation. (At least not anywhere near the beginning of getting to know someone.) But, as important, don't drag in all those beliefs and decisions you made 20 years ago. The woman you are today is nowhere near the girl who dated way back when. I'm telling you to check all your checklists. Check the one that defines "the perfect man" and what he must do or not do to get to the next date? Check the one that has all your "truths" about yourself, about dating, and about men. It's important to take time to ground yourself in who you are and what you want in your life today. Do this by yourself, with a friend, or with a coach. But do it.

Gotta go. Be good to yourself.

Safe Dating - Tips for Women

1. Don't give out any personal information until you feel extremely comfortable around someone. Don't share your last name or an address unless you have a good feeling about a man you've meet face-to-face on a date. You may even want to meet him a couple of times before you share any personal information. If a guy starts asking you personal questions redirect him. Start asking him about his hobbies: what does he do in his free time? What does he likes about his work? Who is his favorite musician?

2. For your first two or three dates, meet him in a public place. For the first date, I'd suggest a cup of coffee or tea at the book store, or a quick drink in a mellow location where it's easy to talk. If you would like to see him again, let him know. Ask him if you can call him. Agree to meet him again in another public place--maybe at a restaurant for dinner or lunch, or a walk at a popular city park. Usually guys like giving their phone number and if they like you, they love it when you call. For the third date, meet him again in a public place and if you feel safe after that feel free to start giving out personal information. Note: If a guy isn't comfortable giving out his phone number he's either not that "into you", or he may be married and wanting some side action. Don't cave in. Don't give him your number until you feel comfortable with him.

3. If you ever feel like a man you just met on-line is following you home, drive to the police station and walk in. Any man who had bad intentions will drive off.

4. Trust your intuition, even if it does not make sense. If someone's picture or voice mail seems kind of creepy--trust your instincts. The beauty of internet dating is that it is anonymous. Most internet sites will ban a man from using their site if he is harassing women or sending perverse or offensive messages. Your intuition does not have to be explained or offered to anyone. What you feel is what you feel and you need to honor yourself.

5. When you go out on a date with a new guy for the first time tell one other person. You may want to "book-end" it with another girlfriend who uses on-line dating. Have an agreement with each other that you will keep tabs on each other's plans. Call each other before you go out on a date with a new man. Let your friend know who you are meeting, where you are meeting them, and when you expect be home. After the date is over call your friend again and let her know you are safely home. You don't have to share anything about the date, just check in.

With today's hectic lifestyles internet dating is one of the best ways to meet an available man who shares your interests. With the help of the internet, a clever on-line introduction, and little typing, you'll soon be exposed to a variety of available men. Also remember the goal of dating is not just to find "THE ONE"; it's to get to know some nice guys and enjoy some male companionship. If you meet someone and it leads to a long term romance or marriage, that's great. In the meantime, relax and enjoy your dating life, and do it safely.

Courtesy of http://www.MagicMomentsDating.com

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Smart Dating Tips For Women - Prevent Resentment From Building Up!

Problems are like weeds. They will pop up unexpectedly and attack the health of your love garden. Instead of being surprised by problems, anticipate their arrival in advance and know exactly how you're going to eliminate them.

The following helpful pointers are designed to help you handle any kind of relationship problem that comes your way with more control and effectiveness:

o See problems as temporary challenges

The first simple step is to refer to your "problems" from now on as "challenges." The word "challenge" implies that there is a workable solution that can be found with the proper mix of courage, determination, flexibility, discipline, knowledge, and skill. Challenges tend to be temporary in nature and require higher levels of performance in order to overcome them. If a couple can rise to the occasion and muster the will to succeed, then they will eventually find a way to restore and maintain their love for each other.

o Honestly admit your mistakes right away

One way to disarm a potentially difficult situation is to admit your mistakes quickly and emphatically. That way, you will give your partner the proper assurances that this problem will be approached in a more balanced manner in the future. Do this instead of trying to wage a one-sided attack on where he's been wrong. For the time being, make sure that you let your admission of the mistake stand alone without negating its value by saying something like "What I did was wrong and I am sincerely sorry, but...." (Don't add any excuses or tell him why he's a big part of the problem.) If you try the suggested approach, your partner may likely reciprocate back by admitting his mistakes as well.

o Attack the problem but not the person

Make sure that you separate the problem from the person. You want to reinforce the idea that you love the person, but you hate their bad behaviors. Along the same lines, never question the other person's intent and don't attack their character if you want to prevent an escalation of ill will. When dealing with men, realize that they sometimes do and say dumb things simply because they don't attach much significance to a particular action or its consequences. This is in contrast to how the typical woman would probably view it. If a playful guy thinks that something is no big deal, you can expect him to do or say almost anything.

o Can you handle the truth?

People often claim that they want to hear the absolute truth. However, can they really accept it without getting their feelings hurt? As a communicator, one tactful way of presenting a hard truth is to spend a lot of time explaining the nature of what is about to be said. That way, the intent of the message is less likely to be misconstrued. So establish the nature of a difficult discussion, get permission to share the details, and then freely state your truth. A wise communicator will also follow up their statements with a reminder of why honesty is essential for the long-term health of any love relationship. Interestingly, how well people handle the truth creates a precedent on whether truths will be shared or omitted in the future. If you discover that a partner has been telling you a pack of lies, understand that part of the problem may be his perception that you can't handle the truth. In any case, people should know that it's best to stick with honesty. My feeling is that if the truth will destroy a relationship, so be it. Actually, the strange thing I've discovered is that the truth seldom blows up a relationship --- instead what is almost guaranteed to destroy the love connection is avoiding the truth, better known as lying or lying by omission.

o Don't be too negative

While it's true that most problems are negative in nature, it doesn't mean that we can't find some positive value in the process of overcoming them. Remind yourself that while there may be problems or imperfections in your relationship, there are still plenty of other things to be grateful about, too. In addition, discipline your thinking so that you clearly define your challenge and not make it appear worse than it actually is. The most important point here is that negative problems are handled best when you are in the most positive and constructive frame of mind.

o Focus on workable solutions

Put an immediate end to the pointless rehashing of a problem and move forward by focusing on workable solutions. By doing this, you will think about constructive responses rather than waste more time dwelling on what has already happened and can't be changed. The object here is to come up with a wide range of possible solutions for your particular relationship challenge and mutually decide on the best course of action to pursue. Put your energy where you'll get the best results and that's by focusing on the best solutions and creating a goal-achieving plan of actions.

o What is the larger objective?

If you can ask this question throughout the process of solving your relationship challenge, you will be able to keep your discussion on purpose. The larger objective may include such things as: (1) making sure that you don't take each other for granted, (2) improving communication, (3) learning more about your partner's beliefs about your relationship, and (4) learning how to grow as a couple, to name a few. The larger objective is always positive and is meant to bring happiness and fulfillment to both partners. In the heat of your battles, always come back to the larger objective so that you'll be reminded of how you will both benefit.

o Get professional help or get out

If you find that the weight of your problems becomes too heavy for you to handle, seek high-quality professional counseling. This may require getting help for yourself first and later getting help for your partner as well. Select a counselor who has a good track record for success and is naturally appealing to both partners. Still, sometimes we find that despite all of our efforts to repair the serious problems in a relationship, we fail to observe one or more of the following: (1) a willingness to seek any kind of help, (2) a willingness to be responsible, (3) a willingness to forgive, (4) a willingness to love, or (5) a willingness to even try. At that point, it's clearly time to get out.

You will arrive at your love destiny as a result of all of the choices that you make over time. Increase your chances for success by having a sensible and reliable system in place for handling your relationship challenges. That way, you can avoid unnecessarily harsh clashes and prevent hard feelings from destroying your love.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Dating sucks when problems crop up repeatedly in your love life and send you into an emotional tailspin. But dating rocks when you can anticipate and handle every kind of challenging situation with wisdom, maturity, control, and love.

Steve Nakamoto - "The Voice Of The Other Half"
iVillage.com's Ask Mr. Answer Man Relationship Expert
2-Time Writer's Digest Award-Winning Author
Author of Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs To Know About Catching A Man
Talk Like A Winner! 21 Simple Rules For Everyday Communication Success
Dating Rocks! The 21 Smartest Moves Women Make For Love

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