The Three Best Steps to Online Dating Happiness

I was recently sitting with a girl friend having a cup of coffee in an Auckland Cafe. I shared with her my commitment to helping people find a true love online This friend of mine related back the following story:

A friend of hers fell pregnant late in life and three months after she gave birth to her little boy, her partner left her. Devastated and grappling with raw emotions, this friend tried a few online dates. The results were pitiful with a zero success rate. Then after reaching the point of no return this friend took some transformational online dating steps, met her true love and is now happily married. You may ask what were these steps and how did they make a difference?

1. Create Your Ideal Online True Love Before Going Online:

If you want success in the online dating game, create, who you want to meet online before you even begin to fill out your profile. Do this by writing out a list of all the characteristics you want in a partner. In the case of the lady in the above story she listed out forty eight specific characteristics she wanted from a potential online date. Some of the characteristics could include: hair, skin and eye colour, age, height,build, income, career,philosophy of life, personality,religious beliefs,hobbies and interests. These are just some ideas of characteristics, the more specific you become the better the chances of matching who you really want to date.

2. Create A Specific Time Line:

Unless you can vision a specific time line, most likely your true love will takes years to find. You now have the characteristics you want to find in your true love, so now put a time frame as to when you want the relationship to exist by. This is somewhat futuristic planning but it creates the dating process as a reality obtainable using the measure of time. Where do you want, for example, to be with your online dating true love in a year, six months, three months, two weeks out from beginning to date online? Working backwards will help you create realistic goals for your online dating process. This process will help you define for yourself whether or not you want a long term or short term relationship. Whatever the parameters are for you be clear on these before going online.

Throughout the planning process, write down your time line on paper as this changes thoughts into real measures that are defined in reality, not just in your head. To simplify: make the process real for yourself by creating a vision of your dating process set in time and space.

3. Have Faith That The Relationship Will Be What You Create It To Be:

There is no point in going online dating if you can not truly have faith that you will within your created time line meet your true love. This means putting aside all raw emotions regarding past experiences, and creating the dating process afresh for yourself. In addition throughout the process keep all negative thoughts out of the picture. If you are having a down day about your online dating process, take out your notes of what you have created and keep the vision alive. Doing this exercise will also enlighten you as to how far you have come in meeting and dating your true love!

Remember the lady in the story,she created her perfect true love before she went online dating and within a year married her true love. Have faith in creating the perfect true love before going online and keep the vision alive in a written time line.

True love can happen to anyone at any time, have faith, have courage and if things seem to be taking a long time it is because you have yet to meet the one. That person is out there somewhere and with perseverance you will find them. Never, ever give up, when you really want something you will find it regardless of how hard it seems

Copyright (c) 2010 Michael Jamison

Michael and Alison Jamison have been together 5 years and married for 3. They met on an online dating site and have never regretted the experience. Michael and Alison love to assist others in their quest for true love, visit [http://www.thebestonlinedatingguide.com] for more invaluable tips and aid in finding your true love

Online Dating Advice - How a Dating Coach Can Help You Find Your Ultimate Happiness

Although Online Dating Sites are designed to look like a lot of fun, in truth there are hundreds of millions of dollars on the line - both from the dating sites themselves and their marketing dollars - to their members whose lives will irrevocably change as a result of the matches made there.

One in four single adults now use online dating services. At the rate the online dating industry is now growing, within five years nearly half of all singles will be using online dating sites. Millions of singles join dating sites every single day. The convenience of online dating makes it easy to meet compatible matches across town... across state... or across the country. Some of the most adventurous singles travel around the world to meet their matches! Online dating is no longer something "odd" or out of the ordinary. Today it's the standard way to start a new relationship for 25% of single adults, and it will soon become the primary way people meet in the not-too-distant future.

There's a lot of money, feelings, and life decisions resting on the success or failure of your dating efforts. And there's no reason to take these risks alone. Now there are trained professionals to help you navigate the online dating services, saving you time, money, and many unnecessary heartaches. As a Professional Dating Coach, let me share a little about what I do to help make a client's social life a bit easier.

One of the most difficult and challenging tasks faced by new online dating members is the chore of creating an Online Dating Profile. Your Dating Profile tells the world who you are, what you value, and who you're looking for in a partner.

Your Dating Profile is essentially your online calling card - it's your full-color Internet brochure that provides all of your marketing and advertising combined. Your Dating Profile, just like most Internet website pages, has to convince your reader in less than three seconds that your message is worth reading - otherwise they'll click off of your profile and move onto the next one. A boring headline, a boring first paragraph, uninteresting text in your "About Me" section - any or all of these can spell disaster for you - dashing your hopes of connecting with someone who might otherwise become your Soulmate and lifelong partner.

When you consider how important your happiness really is - a lifetime of joy with someone with whom you can travel, make love, have a family, share friends, and build a home together - would you want to leave all of this to chance? Probably not.

Enter the Dating Coach

Many people spend years and thousands of dollars preparing for the entrance exams to college. And yet when you compare your college education to the success of your marriage, which one is more important to you? There are thousands of colleges and universities, so missing one still leaves you many others to choose from. But missing the chance to meet your Soulmate may leave you with the prospect of spending your life alone - or settling for a relationship - or marriage - with someone you just don't love.

How a Dating Coach can Help

A Dating Coach can see the big picture of your life and help steer you in the right direction. Your Dating Coach will ask you probing, important questions and through his or her insights and special gifts, make suggestions that will bring out the best in you and help you express it in your Online Dating Profile for all the world to see. Although it's certainly true that you could design your Dating Profile by yourself, it is equally true that you could do many other things yourself too that you would be best advised not to. For example, successful business owners don't prepare their own tax returns - they use the professional services of an accounting firm. Most adults don't build their own homes - they hire a contractor to help them. So why would you want to build your social life by yourself when a trained professional can help you create healthy relationships by using an intelligently designed strategy instead?

Some other ways a Dating Coach can Help too

Virtually everyone has some emotional baggage from the past, which tends to color our decisions in the present. Your Dating Coach, like a trained counselor and trusted guide, will help you separate your baggage from your innate talents and gifts, so your best qualities shine through while the rest is left behind - just like separating the wheat from the chaff. Many people aren't really sure what they want in a relationship - nor whom they're most compatible with. Your Dating Coach can help make all of this clear, so the future is less cloudy and you have every reason to be optimistic about the possibilities that are waiting for you - and in some cases, right around the corner!

Jay Reiss is an Online Dating Coach who has worked with more than two thousand clients worldwide! He'll help you design your Online Dating Profile and show you how to succeed with Online Dating! He offers a free telephone coaching session (a $100.00 value - free!) and has helpful Online Dating Advice on his website: http://www.Online-Dating-Coach.com.