Drive-Thru Dating: Why Instant Relationship is Not on the Menu

In this day and age of on-demand TV, text messaging and IMing, people operate at warp speed. The information age has dramatically skewed ideas on how long it takes to make something happen or create change.

Everything has been impacted by the desire for instant gratification, and that applies to dating as well. The title of this article is "Drive-through Dating" because that is what people have come to expect. Clients think they should meet someone immediately and get angry or frustrated when it doesn't happen fast enough. Or, if they do meet someone, they rush into relationship, speeding up the time it takes to get to know someone and the intimacy process.

Yesterday I read this awesome quote that is so incredibly applicable to finding love. "Despite what God did, your world cannot be created in a week." (Taken from the book, The Boyfriend Test.) Wow - how profoundly true. For anyone who has embarked on a campaign to change his/her life or start something new, you can see the wisdom and truth of these words.

So how can you reconcile the warp speed with the basic laws of life and finding love?

1) Get real.

If you want to find love, it might happen the first time out the door. But it could also take kissing 50 frogs. Meeting the right person can take time and energy, but everyone agrees - the results are worth it. So get your expectations in line and get going.

2) Don't put off the task.

Whether you are 25 or 65, today is the best day to start. Why is that? Because the only time you can create change is in the present moment. Tomorrow becomes today, so you might as well start right now. It's never too late.

Here's a beautiful story. Robert Pettus, 86, met and married Anne Mish Pettus, 81. Their story was recently published in a CT paper about how they met in a bereavement group. This couple found a second chance for love and they grabbed it.

Morale of the story: If you're under 86, there's still time to find love, so that excuse just went out the window.

3) Quick doesn't necessarily mean good.

Fast food isn't the healthiest. Instant Messaging can easily be misunderstood. Rapid relationships can lead to unnecessary heartbreak. Taking the time to do things right pays out in the long run. Do-overs create baggage and pain, so take your time to get to know someone and move on if things aren't right.

4) Reframe your fast-paced ways to recognize opportunities.

If you get out there and get active, you can meet loads of new people, make new friends, and attract the love you want. Increasing the frequency of your singles activities is a far more productive use of warp speed.

Kick down your hyper-drive and mellow your sense of timing. Sit back and enjoy the ride as the saying goes. You never know who will connect you to "the one," so be kind, smile a lot, and appreciate each person you meet for who s/he is. That is the recipe for a balanced dating journey that will deliver the romance results you desire.

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