Live For Getting a Date With the Hot Neighbor!

I once spotted a super-hottie that lived upstairs from me. Honestly, I became briefly obsessed with her. What was she doing? Who was she doing it with? Could we meet up? I never found out because I never took any action. One day I never saw her again. I had to live with that regret and shame for at least a few weeks.

Ever done what I did? I'm sure you may have spotted your own hottie living somewhere in your community as well, but aren't sure how to approach them. Being labeled a stalker is way worse than being labeled a coward. How do you break the ice?

I've had my top team of research Brainiacs scouring the depths of time and space to come up with a few tips that may help you save a little dignity and give you a chance to break the ice with the incredibly hot neighbor.

Secret #1: If you're a girl, ask for help

My friend Krista says, "I never knew grocery shopping could be so fun until I lived on the third floor of a beautiful apartment with an even more beautiful 2nd floor resident. My shtick? Helplessness, frailty, and bad lung capacity, of course. I asked him to help carry up a heavy bag full of Tide and some 2 liters. He smiled at me. Well worth it."

Honestly, this one has gotten me multiple times without knowing I was being hit by a routine. Guys'll fall for it hook, line, and sinker every time. Nothing makes us feel better than thinking we've helped out a girl in distress. The best part about Krista's secret is that most of the time the guy will do the work for you and offer to help without you having to ask. If he doesn't, he's probably not worth your time anyway.

Secret #2: Talk to her around the amenities

This seems to be obvious, but is strangely rarely approached. A great way to strike up a conversation in the gym, at the pool, or in the stairwells is to keep it simple. Great topics of conversation? "Hey, do you live here too? What do you think of the place," "Hey, do you use this gym a lot? What do you think of the equipment," or "Hey, have you guys ever had a BBQ around here?" or "What's the social scene here in the summer?"

These basic yet strategic questions can generate an entire conversation, and if you're lucky...maybe even a date.

Secret #3: Hang out on your patio or balcony

I believe one of the best indicators of someone who is open, fun, and a lover of the "simple things in life," is how they use their patios. Those who sit out in their comfy lawn furniture, basking in the rays, margarita in hand, enjoying the smell from the dumpster wafting over from the parking lot (hey! It was affordable there!) really know how to enjoy life. And People like people that enjoy life. So sit, my friend. Even if you have to light incense. Then kick back and wait for the honeys to walk by.

And when they do, for heaven's sake, invite them up to have a margarita and relax. I wouldn't mention the dumpster.

Secret #4: Bring the welcome wagon

Did you spot your future wife just moving in a couple of buildings down? Do you suspicion you will never accidentally "run" into her? Then get out there! Take her a candle and some cookies (or wine, if you're really gutsy) and tell her you're the resident welcome wagon. She'll think you're sweet and it may eventually get a date.

Make sure to keep it simple though. Showing up with a huge assortment of gifts may be a little overbearing. And definitely steer clear of flowers on the first visit! Nothing says "stalker" like being brought roses from someone you've never met. Work your way up to the flowers, my friends, work your way up.

Secret #5: Smile and make eye contact-a lot

This is another one that may seem obvious, but is so obviously missing from many peoples repertoire that I'm saying it here again. No one will ever know you may have a thing for them if you don't really make a concerted effort to look at that person. Then smile, then look away, then look back and smile again. You get the message. So will she.

There you have it. Five awesome secrets to pick up your hottie neighbor or at the very least let them know you are interested without putting your livelihood on the line. Next time you have a chance, give one of these a shot and see how it turns out. No matter what though, always remember this one simple rule: Don't act like an idiot.

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Trey's just a regular guy with a funny goatee that really enjoys people and life. On top of that he is a bit of an expert on apartments, living in them, and getting the most out of the apartment living lifestyle.

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