Is Dating Stressing You Out?

It's certainly normal to be anxious and even concerned about the dating process. Very few people generally want to go through the process required to find the person they're looking for. With so many potential things on the line (spouse, family, home, etc), it's easy to see why some people become nervous, or even overly anxious about dating.

Stop and think for a moment. A bad date is not the end of the world and a good date does not necessarily mean the start of a beautiful relationship. Many successful marriages started out with a bad date, and many beautiful dates have ended in unfilled marriages. Always keep those things in perspective. In order to unleash yourself from the anxiety of dating try some of these successful techniques before you go off on the date.

Relax

Relax and remember that it is after all, just a date. Listen to a MP3 or your favorite CD, read a book, and/or watch your favorite TV program. Do things that get your mind off your date so you'll be relaxed when the date begins.

Ultimately, if you've done your dating due diligence, few things can be gained or lost from one date. History is filled with couples who've been happily married even when the first date was disastrous for one or both parties. History is also equally filled with stories of people whose first dates went like a fairy tale; and marriages ended in a disaster. Bad things happen to both good and bad people. If the date didn't go as you envisioned it would, look back on the role you played (or didn't play) and see if another date is warranted, or if it really was a disaster.

Let your confidence show Both men and women are attracted to confidence. Let your confidence and not your (over confidence) arrogance. There is distinct difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is displaced confidence; don't allow your self assuredness to go to you or your dates head. Know in yourself that no matter where you are going, or what you'll be doing, you can contribute equally and will be able to hold up your end of the conversation and be the equal to the person which you are dating. This confidence will shine in you and be seen by not just your date, but also by other people

Get organized Organization is a great trait to have when preparing for dates. Good organizational skills will make sure that you're not running around at the last minute checking on things here, there, and everywhere. Start your pre-date by organizing everything for the date early enough where you are not running out of time, or running behind schedule. Assure yourself that enough time to get ready for the date by knowing how long it takes you to get ready for an evening out. Check that the clothes you want to wear are clean and pressed. If meeting at someplace other than your house, make sure that you know the directions to the venue where you will meet at, and check for alternative routes in case of an emergency.

If you date is coming to pick you up, make sure that they know the best directions to get to your house and exchange appropriate contact information like mobile phones.

Have fun If the date is not going the way you wanted it to go or the person you're with is not the person whom you thought they were, nothing should stop you from enjoying the date that you're on. Missteps and bad judgments happen, and dating disasters are always a spilled drink away; however don't let a dating faux pas ruin your date. Every date you go on is a practice in the process that you go through until you're with the right person at the right time, doing all the things both of you love to do.

Don't be a stick in the mud if things aren't going your way. If life serves you a lemon of a date, you be the sugar and enjoy the lemonade.

Obi aka The Relationship Guy, provides insightful, common sense, witty, and some times sarcastic articles on love, dating, and relationships. His forthcoming book, ‘The Blueprint of Love’ goes into detail about the game of love. You can read more articles and get more information about the book by going to: [http://www.theblueprintoflove.com] You can also read his blog on married life called: Marriage 101: Lessons Learned in the First Year of Marriage