Dating and Love in Performance

If there was a performance in dating exercises, then love and endearment would be the main actors. Love is feminine, so it would be the actress, while dating and all effects of endearment, from romance to passion, will be actors and supporting actors, respectively. However love is not a performance as such. Love is an element on dating, but there can be dating without love.

If I was the one asked to make a choice on romance issues, I would choose to abstain from any dating event until I find that person my heart goes fast when I set my eyes on them. I would wait until that time when love becomes the essence of our meeting and the reason of our kissing and starting a relationship. If love was absent in my relationship then there is no reason for me to continue being mired in the passionless events that lack in color and substance. I would choose to stay away from the drama of life that has no fun, a performance that lacks the main actors, good lighting and a perfect script.

It is a performance that has all the traits of failure, a kind of plot that suggests the word flop between the articulations of its whispers. Dating must have fun and color, without which there is no attraction or love. There is something interesting about love and the nature of relationships. There is no relationship that thrives forever without true love.

Lust might make you have a relationship, a union that is geared towards only one thing; sexual tries. This is not a relationship as such, because a dating relationship transcends the wants of our gonads. It means that even after having the best of sexual tries, coital subjugation that is wild and wholesome in nature, your affair is as good as dead. There is nothing more. Yet dating relationships should not be like this.

In the line of occurrence, there must be attraction and it's not lust. A chemistry of sorts that make you feels good when you are in the company of the man or woman you are dating. It goes deeper than thinking how many seconds it can take you to remove her clothes and sublimate your intercourse, it means more than this. It does not mean the dating relationships should luck lust, I tend to differ. The lust should be there, because you need to think of your woman, who could be in a bikini and nothing underneath, in terms of sexual matters. It keeps you fired up.

Nevertheless it must not be in isolation, it must be a part and parcel of the wider panorama of performance. You must love each other first, or grow your adoration first, and after you begin a relationship, the attraction must not be as a result of lust but lust out of love. Dating is a performance, before you begin the drama, you need the right cast and supporting implements, otherwise, you are floating in a romantic balloon that will automatically be destroyed sometime between the events.

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