Over the last decade online dating sites have gained a huge following. While the Internet has been fostering relationships for a while, there has been a huge boom in the number of people who will actually use dating sites. In the old days of online dating the medium was mostly for the younger generation. Now it seems that whatever it is you are looking for there is a dating website out there for you.
In today's article I want to give you a few tips for successful online dating:
1. Mind your Online Persona
The first step to find love, or whatever else your motivation for joining a dating site may be, is a strong online persona. From creating the right online dating user name to filling out the profile it all matters.
Unlike a face to face meeting where you need to feel your partner out in online dating potential mates expect to get to know you through your profile. Take some time to think about what you are looking for and how to best describe yourself.
The most important part here is honesty - yes, the cliche is that a hot girl you are chatting with is a 16 year old dude living in his mom's basement. That doesn't mean you should grossly exaggerate things about yourself. Most online dating services are doing a fairly good job weeding out the fakes.
Likewise when you find somebody to meet face to face you don't want them to be disappointed. That would really diminish your chances of this date going any furthers.
2. Be Visible
The temptation to skip on uploading a picture and just snoop around a little bit. A good picture is going to increase your chances of attracting a potential mate manifold. Just as with a well written profile you have a much easier time getting your profile noticed.
The picture doesn't need to be a professional portrait. A snapshot of yourself that you love will do just fine. Make sure it represents you and who you really are. For example if you are a homebody that enjoys cuddling by the fireside it might be a bad idea to put that mardi grass picture online. The picture should let a potential mate see whether they feel physically attracted to you, so choose wisely.
3. Don't Compromise Privacy
The Internet is a very public place and information uploaded has a tendency to stick around indefinitely. Be careful to watch your boundaries when you create your dating profile.
Depending on the type of site you are signing up to you should weight just how private you want to be. While a pure dating site for finding long term love may allow you to be a little more open a dating site for BDSM Fetishists might require a little more candor.
A good rule of thumb is to see if you would be happy to print the profile with your pictures and leave it in a place where co-workers could see it. You have many options to protect your privacy. From not naming your full name to obscuring your picture. Have a look at typical profiles on the site and see how open they are, that will give you a good idea about your own profile.
4. Be Polite
When you decide to write to somebody about getting to know them better please take the time to write a few nice lines. Nobody likes to receive emails that simply say "your hot, let's sex" or other thoughtless one liners.
Take a few sentences to let them know why you liked their profile and say a few words about yourself. Yes, most of the stuff about you is in your profile, but it's a nice touch if you write a few spur of the moment lines. It shows interest. A well thought out email will most certainly increase your chances of receiving a nice reply.
Rejections happen - just because they happen on the internet doesn't mean you have to be rude about it. The anonymity of the internet cause some people to forget their manners. It is easy to write rude words on the internet. Unless you would say those exact words to somebody right across from you please reword your response.
5. Beware of your Safety
Just like in the real world the internet has a lot of weirdos and crazies. It's a sad fact of live. The problem with internet dating is that one tends to lower their caution quicker. It's not a rare occurrence that people fall in love with another person without having ever met face to face - simply through emails. Remember that it's easy to pretend that you are someone else when all you upload is a profile and a picture.
Webcams have somewhat decreased the risk by being fooling by someone totally different than you have expected. But yet, you still can not look inside a person. Be mindful of the amount of personal information you share before having met face to face.
Most importantly, when it comes to a face to face date make sure you meet in a public place. Especially if you're a girl:Never just the two of you alone! Just like you wouldn't give a stranger on the street your home address and invite them in you need to play it safe.
Visit my Blog at http://www.JamesGMonroe.com for more tips on successful internet dating strategies. For example, if you enjoyed this article - check out my article on creating the perfect Online Dating Site Usernames.
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