How to Find Love on the Internet - Success Secret Number 5

Hidden Success Secret #5 for Finding Love on the Internet

DROP THE SHAME

Do you avoid telling other people that you are using online dating services to find love? Why do you hide it? Are you embarrassed?

Or worse yet... Are you ashamed to admit that you are actively looking for love? Does membership on dating sites mean that you are desperate? Needy? Before we go any further... I need to tell you...

THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH ADMITTING THAT:

You want love in your life; and You are willing to do something active to find it. After all, isn't that what life is all about?

Loving and Being Loved? Do you compare yourself to others--now married or in long-term relationships--who seemed to have found love quickly or easily? Have you convinced yourself that you are desperate and they are not?

Do you look around and see other people--once single--who didn't seem to have any trouble finding someone to love fairly quickly?

Have you decided that there might be something unattractive or unlovable about you? Is there something wrong with you....that you have to go looking for love and 'they' did not?

Consider for a moment... that some of those people... certainly not all... but some... could be called "desperate" to avoid being alone. Who is more desperate--the person who wants "to be married above all else" or the person who wants to make the right choice of a partner?

Trying to avoid being alone is very different from wanting to share your life with a loving mate. As a psychologist...when someone tells me that they have joined the world of online dating, I think the following things:

First: Good for him: he is not afraid to admit that he wants to love and be loved... and his chances of finding love... just increased dramatically.

Secondly: She isn't just sitting at home, waiting for love to come knocking on her door. That's not likely to happen...unless you hit it off with the cable guy.

Lastly: Every time a single person tells others that he/she is looking for love on the Internet...it makes it easier for someone else to sign up, without fear of being desperate or needy.

If you're still feeling hesitant about signing on, just try it out for one month: knowing that you never have to contact anyone unless you want to do so. I would suggest that you sign up for at least 2 of the three big ones, as they have more members and they all have established positive reputations:

If you're unsure about posting a photo on line, you can always wait until you're more comfortable. After some experience looking at profiles, you can decide if it's worth posting a photo on the site.

You can choose to never post a photoon an online dating site: that doesn't mean that your matches will be any different: they just won't include the people who won't even look at a profile, without a photo.

Please feel free to contact me with any feedback about your experience looking for love online or any questions you might have... gloria@gloriawaite.com. I love hearing from you.

Gloria Waite is a an expert on love relationships, who gives no-nonsense love advice to men and women. Learn more about Gloria.

People, who know Gloria, credit her success to 25+ years of experience as psychologist and her natural gift for 'getting it' right away and coming up with practical advice and solutions.